Highly Sensitive People Have A Hard Time Moving On
Welcome to this blog series on highly sensitive people who tend to have a hard time moving on. This can be mentally, emotionally and even physically. We tend to hold on to any experience that triggers our thought processes, our emotions, or even our bodies. This definitely causes problems when they are bad experiences, or good experiences that we have lost. They go around and around in our heads, and we can get obsessed with these thought patterns. Sometimes it can feel like a noise in our head that just won’t go away.
If you want to look deeper into what is a highly sensitive person, click here: what-is-a-highly-sensitive-person
Highly Sensitive People And Emotional Upset
Emotional upset still hurts even long after the event. They go around and around in your head, and it seems that the cycles just won’t end. You replay the scene in your head over and over again, thinking of all the different scenarios that could have happened if you acted differently. You go to bed, and then the next morning, the cycle repeats, and you think you have found a happy solution in your mind, and then they start up again. This seems common in highly sensitive people, and I know this has happened to me on many occasions.
I am not the happiest of drivers. And driving really can change your temperament. I used to love driving when the roads were quieter, but it seems they are so busy now. When someone cut me up, nearly hit the car, or didn’t indicate their movement, I used to get really angry. When something really bad happened, like a serious cut up from another car, I used to get really, really upset, to the point of even boiling over with anger. I did not realise I carried it for the rest of the day inside of me.
"Driving used to make me angry!"
My wife pointed this out one day when she said, ‘Please don’t let this incident ruin the rest of the day’, when I was badly cut up from another person driving badly. I realised that when someone upset me on the road, it would affect my mood for the rest of the day. I know this is not the most upsetting example of what we hold onto, but it shows that we can hold onto things that have not really hurt or harmed us, and it can ruin the rest of your day, or even days.
"Emotional upset can linger long after an event, replaying in the mind and affecting your mood, as even seemingly small incidents, like a driving upset, can influence the rest of your day."
Highly Sensitive People And Affairs Of The Heart
Affairs of the heart are also very difficult, especially when they are negative. You have a hard time letting go of negative emotions when you are highly sensitive. Emotional pain from an insult to a break up and everything in between, tends to linger on with you. Even when you know that something is not a big deal, these feelings stay with you, haunting you, and continually pulling your focus towards them. The same thing happens here. We have a perpetual cycle happening in our heads, running through so many scenarios, and this is exhausting you.
Meditation and mindfulness are so helpful here. If you really work at your practise, you can bring the mind into the present very quickly and get on with what you are supposed to be getting on with. Meditation and mindfulness is all about focusing the mind. If you practise this well and learn techniques that serve you, you can conquer these negative cycles. Sitting on the side of a mountain in silence is not a good idea, as the western mind and lifestyle finds this nearly impossible. In fact, this can be damaging in some respects, from my experience. It is important to find what suits you.
"Break-ups can be really hard on highly sensitive people because we can’t let it go, and the emotional pain lingers, causing a perpetual cycle of negative thoughts that are exhausting to navigate."
Highly Sensitive People And Relationships
When we split up from a relationship, which has been close and intimate, this can also cause the cycle of negative thoughts start on an unmerry go around in your head. This affects you on many different levels.
Your physicality with that person will be sorely missed. You will yearn for that back on the material level. Your mind will also miss the stimulation of having someone with you, and your emotions will be hurting because of the loss, or in the way the end happened. Meditation and mindfulness really helps with this also.
We have so many different elements to our experience in this life, and distinguishing between the mind, the body, and the spirit is key here also. If you are having trouble with that, I run a coaching course called the Dream Method that really helps with this.
"When we split up from a close and intimate relationship, the cycle of negative thoughts begins, affecting us on multiple levels—physically, mentally, and emotionally—making meditation and mindfulness crucial tools for healing."
Highly Sensitive People – How To Move On
How to move on from emotional upset
In the Dream Method, we learn how to move on from emotional upset and keep our grace and peace of mind. This is so important in today's world as we become more aware of our imprint on the world and what we can do to stop any bad or toxic feelings being created. Highly sensitive people have a hard time moving on. It doesn’t have to be this way.
How to keep your empathy while moving on
As a highly sensitive human being, our empathy is so important to us, so we learn how to move on from a relationship without losing our empathy or compassion. These are wonderful attributes to us as highly sensitive beings, and this can be lost in the heat of the moment. We learn to respond to life and not react.
How to find the best solution for us
We must always consider all situations careful. Moving on is a difficult subject to breach, and sometimes we need some guidance on what to do next. We should never make a permanent decision on a temporary situation. This is so true when it comes to moving on from a relationship. Highly sensitive people have a hard time moving on. You have the power within to change this.
"In the Dream Method, we learn how to move on from emotional upset, maintain grace and peace of mind, and preserve our empathy and compassion, all while finding the best solutions for us and responding to life rather than reacting."
The Dream Method For Highly Sensitive People
When you are highly sensitive, moving on does not mean pretending that something did not matter or trying to switch your feelings off.
The difficulty often comes when the same experience continues to replay in your mind and emotions long after the event itself has passed. You may understand intellectually that you need to move forward while still finding yourself pulled back into the same thoughts, conversations or imagined alternatives.
The Dream Method gives you a way to work with that pattern rather than trying to force yourself to let go.
Continue With the Dream Method Pathway
If you would like to explore this process for yourself, continue with the free Dream Method Pathway.
The five stages — Discover, Realise, Embrace, Actualise and Master — help you notice what keeps pulling you back, understand the emotional pattern underneath it and gradually turn that awareness into a different response.
You do not need to stop caring about what happened. The aim is to reach a point where the experience no longer has to occupy so much of your attention or determine how you feel today.
Explore One-to-One Support
If you already understand why you find it difficult to move on but continue to become caught in the same emotional or relationship patterns, you can explore One-to-One Coaching.
This gives us space to look more personally at what keeps the cycle active and how you can begin responding with greater clarity, self-trust and emotional freedom while still honouring your sensitivity.
I look forward to connecting with you very soon.
Until then, be well and keep shining.
Peter. :)
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