Shadow Work for People Pleasers
Stop Self-Abandoning Without Becoming Hard
If you constantly say yes when you mean no, overextend yourself, or feel responsible for everyone’s emotions, this course helps you understand the shadow beneath people pleasing and gently reclaim your boundaries.
Begin the Course — £39
Lifetime access. Self-paced. Structured and grounded.
Part of the Core Healing Shadow Work Series — Gentle Structure While Staying Connected
Where Are You on Your Shadow Work Path?
New to shadow work? Start with Shadow Work for Beginners.
Struggling with people pleasing? Start here.
Ready for deeper integration? The 7-Day Shadow Work Course builds lasting structure.
You do not need to become confrontational. You need to stop abandoning yourself.
The Hidden Shadow Beneath People Pleasing
People pleasing is not weakness. It is protection. At some point, you learned that staying agreeable kept you safe.
Perhaps it avoided conflict.
Perhaps it prevented rejection.
Perhaps it earned approval.
But now it feels exhausting.
You overextend. You suppress anger. You resent quietly. You struggle to set boundaries without guilt. Shadow work helps you meet the part of you that learned to survive this way. And gently update it.
What This Course Teaches
This is not a boundary script course. It is shadow work. Inside, you will learn:
Why people pleasing forms as a survival strategy
The emotional wound beneath self-abandonment
How guilt operates as a control mechanism
How to separate compassion from compliance
A guided shadow session focused on boundary fear
How to practise small, safe boundary shifts
You will not be pushed to confront anyone. You will learn to stay connected to yourself first.
After This Course, You Will…
Recognise your people-pleasing triggers
Understand the root wound behind them
Feel less guilt when setting small boundaries
Speak up more calmly
Begin rebuilding self-trust
You will not become harsh. You will become steady.
Course Overview
Lesson 1 — The Survival Strategy Behind People Pleasing
Understanding the fawn response and early conditioning.
Lesson 2 — The Guilt Pattern
Why guilt feels unbearable — and how to work with it.
Lesson 3 — Guided Shadow Session
Meeting the part that fears rejection.
Lesson 4 — Boundary Integration
Small shifts that build self-trust safely.
Clear. Grounded. Repeatable.
Who this course is for
You struggle to say no
You feel responsible for others’ emotions
You avoid conflict at personal cost
You resent quietly but struggle to change
You want boundaries without aggression
Who this course may not be for
This course may not suit you if you:
You are seeking assertiveness training only
You want rapid personality transformation
You are not ready to explore emotional roots
Everything is approached with steadiness, choice, and self-respect.
About Peter
Much of people pleasing is misunderstood.
It is often framed as weakness.
In reality, it is adaptive intelligence that once kept you safe.
In my work with sensitive adults, I focus on helping people update these survival patterns gently.
Not by forcing confrontation.
But by rebuilding internal safety first.
This course reflects that approach.
Investment & Access
For £39 you receive:
Structured video lessons
Guided shadow session
Boundary reflection framework
Lifetime access
If you wish to integrate this work across a full week with daily structure, the 7-Day Shadow Work Course builds deeper capacity.
Frequently Asked Questions
Will this make me confront people?
No. It helps you understand your patterns first.
What if I feel guilty setting boundaries?
Guilt is part of the work. You will learn how to sit with it safely.
Is this therapy?
No. This is structured reflective shadow work.
How long does it take?
Each lesson is manageable and self-paced.
You Do Not Need to Become Someone Else
You do not need to harden. You do not need to rebel. You simply need to stop abandoning yourself.
Explore the full Shadow Work Mini-Courses Library
This course is part of a wider collection of gentle shadow work mini-courses. If another theme feels more relevant right now, you can explore the full library here:
There is no right order. You are welcome to follow what feels most supportive. If another theme feels more relevant right now, you are welcome to explore the full Shadow Work Mini-Courses Library.