Abandonment and Attachment Wounds
Closeness Without Panic
If you long for connection but feel anxious when someone gets too close — or find yourself pulling away just when things feel vulnerable — this course helps you explore the shadow beneath abandonment fear and build steadier intimacy.
Begin the Course — £39
Lifetime access. Self-paced. Structured and grounded.
Part of the Relationship Shadow Work Series — Healing Attachment Patterns and Building Inner Safety
Where Are You on Your Shadow Work Path?
New to shadow work? Start here with Shadow Work for Beginners
Landed here because fear of rejection or intimacy is your main struggle? Start here
Want structured integration across your whole life? Explore the 7-Day Shadow Work Course
You do not fear love. You fear loss. And that makes sense.
When Closeness Feels Dangerous
You might:
Feel anxious when texts go unanswered
Overanalyse tone and timing
Cling tightly when someone pulls back
Withdraw suddenly when things feel too intimate
End relationships before they can end you
Part of you wants connection. Another part prepares for abandonment. This tension is not irrational. It often formed when emotional safety felt uncertain. Shadow work helps you meet that fear directly — without becoming overwhelmed by it.
What This Course Teaches
This is not attachment theory as a label. It is shadow work focused on intimacy fear. Inside, you will learn:
How abandonment wounds form
Why intimacy can activate panic
The push–pull dynamic beneath anxious and avoidant patterns
How fear disguises itself as control or withdrawal
A guided shadow session focused on a specific intimacy trigger
Practical ways to build internal safety before seeking external reassurance
We focus on emotional steadiness first. Then relational patterns begin to shift.
After This Course, You Will…
Recognise abandonment fear when it activates
Feel less panic in moments of uncertainty
Reduce cling or withdraw patterns
Build stronger internal reassurance
Approach intimacy more calmly
You will not eliminate vulnerability. You will relate to it differently.
Course Overview
Lesson 1 — Understanding Abandonment Fear
How early insecurity shapes adult intimacy.
Lesson 2 — The Push–Pull Pattern
Recognising anxious and avoidant dynamics without labelling yourself.
Lesson 3 — Guided Shadow Session
Exploring a specific closeness or rejection trigger.
Lesson 4 — Building Internal Safety
Practical steadiness before relational reassurance.
Clear. Grounded. Repeatable.
This Course Is For You If...
You fear being left
You feel intense anxiety in romantic relationships
You withdraw when intimacy increases
You overanalyse small signs of rejection
You want closeness without panic
This Course May Not Be Right For You If...
You are seeking couples therapy
You prefer purely academic attachment theory
You are not ready to examine your fear honestly
Alignment builds trust.
About Peter
Fear of abandonment is often misunderstood.
It is not weakness.It is protection.
In my work with sensitive adults, I have seen how intimacy panic softens when internal safety increases.
This course blends psychological awareness with structured shadow exploration, so fear becomes understandable rather than overwhelming.
Investment & Access
You invest £39. You receive:
Structured lessons
Guided abandonment-focused shadow sessio
Intimacy stabilisation tools
Lifetime access
If you would like deeper structured integration across a full week, the 7-Day Shadow Work Course builds lasting capacity
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This course stands independently.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this the same as attachment style coaching?
No. It focuses on emotional fear beneath patterns rather than labels.
Will this fix my relationship?
It helps you respond more steadily within it.
What if I feel intense emotion during the session?
You will learn pacing and grounding techniques.
Is this therapy?
No. It is structured educational shadow work.
You Are Not “Too Much”
If closeness feels overwhelming, something once felt unsafe.That can be understood. And steadiness can be built. Begin the Course — £39
Or explore the 7-Day Shadow Work Course for deeper structured integration.
Explore the full Shadow Work Mini-Courses Library
This course is part of a wider collection of shadow work mini-courses. If another theme feels more relevant right now, you can explore the full library here:
There is no right order. You are welcome to follow what feels most supportive. If another theme feels more relevant right now, you are welcome to explore the full Shadow Work Mini-Courses Library.